Fashion Myth: High Heels Are Sexy

The high heel has been considered the epitome of sexy in women’s clothing.  It has been associated with being and feeling beautiful.

What has been neglected though is the conversation of what high heels do to our bodies, why we wear them and how it actually feels to wear them.

Please watch my video, and then continue reading.

The psychology behind wearing high heels fundamentally comes from not accepting ourselves.

In the first case wearing heels to increase our height relates to a society that idealizes tall people. And if we are not tall enough we believe that wearing high heels will increase our social standing as it increases our physical standing. It stems from a belief that being shorter somehow makes us inadequate. And that is simply not true.

The second reason we wear high heels is to be sexually appealing (usually) to men. And this is related to making decisions that put our own health at risk simply for the sake of being looked at. We (might) wear the heels to get outside attention instead of honouring our body and listening to our true inner voice.  The one that tells us we are enough and the pain caused by these torture devices isn’t worth the health risk.

When we choose actions to gain the outside approval of others we are generally ignoring our true inner voice.  If you can wear high heels without pain and you truly do it for yourself, then by all means go ahead. However, realize most of us are not wearing super high heels for ourselves.  We are wearing them to gain external validation (outside attention) and approval from others.

Our legs are not for men to look at, or to make other women jealous of our figures. Our legs are for us to walk on and to carry us through our whole life.

Ruined posture, shortened calf muscles, leg, hip, and joint problems, hammer toes, bunions, corns…the list goes on.

This is not sexy. High heels are not sexy. High heels cause serious health problems. Medium to low heels are your best health choice.

And as Dr. Christian Northrup says in her book Making Life Easy,

High heels are like dessert. To be enjoyed in small doses every once in awhile.

The average life span for women is about 80. Our feet need to last us this whole time so take loving care of them.

To your stylish health,

 

The Face of Beauty: Appreciating Your Body and Your Self

Challenging traditional “Beauty”,  appreciate your body for the gift it is.

Watch the video, then please continue reading.

Our society is so very focused on the idea of beauty. The challenge is that we berate ourselves and hate ourselves and our bodies because we don’t think we fit a cultural (at least in Canada and the United States) ideal which is young, skinny, and pretty as determined by other people’s opinions.

But so many women don’t live long enough to appreciate their beauty. Or their bodies are ravaged by assault, disease and poverty. Or we simply age. And we hate ourselves.

But this does not have to be this way. At all. It is possible to appreciate our bodies for the gift that they are. And it starts with the decision to try to see yourself through eyes of beauty.

Look at your hair with thankfulness and compassion for it gives you warmth and beauty.

Look at your eyes with thankfulness for they let you see the world.

Look at your face with beauty for it lets you express your emotions.

Look at your arms and hands and legs and feet with thankfulness for they let you move and walk and play.

Appreciate and adorn your body with thankfulness and love for it is your vehicle through life, your connection with your senses and your connection with the outside world.

It, like you, is truly a miracle.

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Warmly,

 

 

 

 

1 Dress 5+ Ways Red Carpet Ready: Wear the same dress twice

Welcome today!

Please watch my video about ideas for how you can look great, and save money by using the same dress more than once.

Then please continue reading.

It’s award season. Grammys, Oscars, Junos, etc. I don’t really pay too much attention, but I do know that when the stars are on the red carpet it can wreak havoc on self esteem for some women. Because they feel inferior for not being able to be like the stars because they only have one or two dresses and not a new dress for every occasion.

And often because they see the glammed up hollywood red carpet stars and think “I’ll never look that good.”

Both ways of thinking can only bring you pain. Unless you are crazy wealthy then you have to budget. Plus did you know that many hollywood stars are GIVEN their dresses for FREE by the fashion houses? Simply because it is amazing advertising for all those who are trying to copy hollywood for their personal style. Big star wears nice dress, and sales go through the roof for that company for women who are copying.

But you and I are not hollywood. We are regular women with regular bodies and regular budgets.

Please forget about looking like red carpet hollywood stars.

You only have to look like you.

Warmly,

Fashion Myth: The Dress Makes the Woman or the Suit Makes the Man

It’s the Festive Season! And we are in the time of family gatherings, corporate parties, charity galas and social gatherings.

And it seems the pressure is high to look your best. Dress to Impress as they say.

Watch my short video for thoughts on how to wear your holiday dress or suit with confidence!

We hear the phrase so often that it is the dress that makes the woman or the suit that makes the man that we don’t even stop to think about whether or not that is true!

And the pressure is on to look your absolute best at the party. You could have family breathing down your neck, you want to impress your boss, your spouse, your co workers, your neighbours, and so we spend so much time fretting about getting the perfect holiday dress for women or suit for men.

The Christmas Party, New Years Eve, the corporate party, the social gathering, the charity gala. So many events and so much anxiety about making the right impression.

So much time spent finding the right holiday dress (for women) or suit (for men). So much money spent believing that it is really the dress or the suit that makes us. And without that dress or suit, we are really nothing.

So very very wrong. We are all beautiful or handsome. The trick is we haven’t realized that it is our body that gives the dress or suit shape and substance. And without the body the dress or suit is just a pile of fabric.

So know you are what gives the dress or suit its power. Not the other way around. Happy Festivities to you all!

Warmly,

Welcome Video

Watch the Intro Video Here to Learn the Truth About Fashion.  And Welcome to Discovering the Style of You.

We’ve been told our whole lives long that we are flawed and inadequate and the way to fix this is with clothing and beauty products.

No fashion tips, or style advice alone will help you FEEL beautiful. They can certainly help you look beautiful, but truly feeling beautiful is deeper work that starts with a loving relationship with yourself.

My blog, videos and upcoming online courses will give you the whole package. Fashion tips, style advice, and the change in thoughts and feelings that you need to go along with them.

You can also contact me for personal style coaching services in Calgary, AB Canada and surrounding areas.

Warmly,