Am I Beautiful? Owning Your Power and Beauty

The trick to owning our personal power and beauty is realizing we already have it.

Yes this is a longer video. It is worth it.  Set aside some time over your lunch break or after the kids are in bed.

Then read on after you watch!

 

We hustle around trying to gain the approval of others. We hustle around trying to gain achievements, paychecks, spouses, have children. We hustle around buying clothes and makeup. Then we go scowling at the clothes and makeup because they didn’t make us feel beautiful they way the advertisements promised. Or perhaps they did for awhile, until the void inside started screaming again. So we figure the bigger house will make us feel better. The bigger paycheck. The nicer dress. The new baby. The new “something outside me.” On and on the cycle goes.

All in an effort to answer the questions: Am I Beautiful? Am I Worthy?

Of course I went through all this, and still find myself stuck in these circular traps from time to time.

But as I say in the video, it takes time to change our thoughts and feelings, but it is well worth the effort.

On some level I think we know that the clothes and makeup and bigger houses will not actually make us feel better, not on the deep level that I believe we really desire, but we keep chasing these things anyway in an effort to fill the void.

The answer then is to change our focus from acquiring things to make us look or feel better to changing our thoughts and beliefs to help us look and feel better. After all it is our thoughts that create our body image.

Now of course a new dress or a new eyeshadow has wonderful effects. And if we know we look amazing in an outfit that certainly has a healing power as well. However, these still are temporary. Eventually the clothes wear out or get ripped or stained. The makeup runs out or gets discontinued. So we again are in the place of trying to find the thing outside us that makes us beautiful.

We are innately beautiful. We are innately powerful. Everyone of us. Including and especially YOU.

So we need to change our thinking.

Change “This dress makes me beautiful”

to something like

I am beautiful and this dress highlights my beauty.”

In the first example we give the dress beauty and the power. In the second, we give ourselves power and beauty.

See my other post for an example of this.

Certainly it takes time to change our beliefs and thoughts, but we all know the pit of despair where the “I hate myself and I am ugly” thoughts end.

Let’s try “I like myself, or I love myself and I am beautiful” instead.

Until next time,

 

The Face of Beauty: Appreciating Your Body and Your Self

Challenging traditional “Beauty”,  appreciate your body for the gift it is.

Watch the video, then please continue reading.

Our society is so very focused on the idea of beauty. The challenge is that we berate ourselves and hate ourselves and our bodies because we don’t think we fit a cultural (at least in Canada and the United States) ideal which is young, skinny, and pretty as determined by other people’s opinions.

But so many women don’t live long enough to appreciate their beauty. Or their bodies are ravaged by assault, disease and poverty. Or we simply age. And we hate ourselves.

But this does not have to be this way. At all. It is possible to appreciate our bodies for the gift that they are. And it starts with the decision to try to see yourself through eyes of beauty.

Look at your hair with thankfulness and compassion for it gives you warmth and beauty.

Look at your eyes with thankfulness for they let you see the world.

Look at your face with beauty for it lets you express your emotions.

Look at your arms and hands and legs and feet with thankfulness for they let you move and walk and play.

Appreciate and adorn your body with thankfulness and love for it is your vehicle through life, your connection with your senses and your connection with the outside world.

It, like you, is truly a miracle.

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Warmly,

 

 

 

 

1 Dress 5+ Ways Red Carpet Ready: Wear the same dress twice

Welcome today!

Please watch my video about ideas for how you can look great, and save money by using the same dress more than once.

Then please continue reading.

It’s award season. Grammys, Oscars, Junos, etc. I don’t really pay too much attention, but I do know that when the stars are on the red carpet it can wreak havoc on self esteem for some women. Because they feel inferior for not being able to be like the stars because they only have one or two dresses and not a new dress for every occasion.

And often because they see the glammed up hollywood red carpet stars and think “I’ll never look that good.”

Both ways of thinking can only bring you pain. Unless you are crazy wealthy then you have to budget. Plus did you know that many hollywood stars are GIVEN their dresses for FREE by the fashion houses? Simply because it is amazing advertising for all those who are trying to copy hollywood for their personal style. Big star wears nice dress, and sales go through the roof for that company for women who are copying.

But you and I are not hollywood. We are regular women with regular bodies and regular budgets.

Please forget about looking like red carpet hollywood stars.

You only have to look like you.

Warmly,

Welcome Video

Watch the Intro Video Here to Learn the Truth About Fashion.  And Welcome to Discovering the Style of You.

We’ve been told our whole lives long that we are flawed and inadequate and the way to fix this is with clothing and beauty products.

No fashion tips, or style advice alone will help you FEEL beautiful. They can certainly help you look beautiful, but truly feeling beautiful is deeper work that starts with a loving relationship with yourself.

My blog, videos and upcoming online courses will give you the whole package. Fashion tips, style advice, and the change in thoughts and feelings that you need to go along with them.

You can also contact me for personal style coaching services in Calgary, AB Canada and surrounding areas.

Warmly,